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steve kadel's picture

my bf gave me the biggest surprise of my life this weekend.

first, all my friends and family showed up at our weekend place near santa barbara for my 50th. only the second surprise bday in my life and the first was not exactly a surprise. this caught me completely off guard. i had friends from east coast, hawaii, washington, alabama, vegas. quite impressed. but it got better

next, he told me we were all staying overnight, 30 of us, in tents.

then, on sunday, after breakfast, we surprised all the guests by getting married. we have been partners for 14 yrs and had a commitment ceremony 3 yrs ago, but now that gay marriage is legal, at least for the time being, we are legally married. we had applied for a license right after it became legal, so we were already prepared. my brother just became a reverend, so he performed the ceremony. it was on the property, our vowels were whitman and rumi poems. he had a cake from the cake divas. i'm still reeling.

the only drawback about the whole amazing weekend was i never got time to work on the WIP, a cable shawl for his grandmother's bday in august.

thanks for indulging my excitement.


MMario's picture

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OKknitguy's picture

Cool. Congratulations! Sounds like a wonderful weekend!


ksmarguy's picture

Wow! How Wonderful, congratulations. The BF and I thought about flying to CA to marry, still not sure what to do, although we are planning something for our 10th next year. Maybe someday, eons after I die, gay marriages will be legal in Kansas, too :)

Not gonna hold my breath, though

steve kadel's picture

better do it before november election. there's another gay ban initiative that is running 50/50 in polls which may close the door again here for a time. at least the legal one that occur before then will remain legal.

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Mnjack's picture

What a wonderful birthday surprise. You have a very loving partner.

Crafty Andy's picture

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steve kadel's picture

thanks all

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crmartin's picture

Wow! Congratulations! I am hoping soon NY will allow same sex marriage. Dennis and I have been together for almost 17 years and I would love to make it legal.



steve kadel's picture

go ahead and make honest men of each other already :) it hardly hurts at all :)

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scottly's picture

Congradulations and its so romantic! My partner and I just celebrated 24 years together and I desperately want to get to CA before November and get married but like ksmarguy it is unlikely we will be legal in MO any time soon.


steve kadel's picture

i think with massachusettes, vermont, california, the gay friendly messages from ny and nj, this could be a house of cards that falls quicker than we imagine. maybe that's just me being overly optimistic (which i'm usually not).

congrats on 24 yrs. come on out. arnold thinks it's a great tourist attraction. maybe i should open a gay wedding chapel. i could knit everyone a sacred shawl as a keepsake :)

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rmbm612's picture

Hm.....after 32 years maybe we should think about making it legal! Best wishes to both of you and welcome to the 50's crowd!

That is really great to hear. I am proud of you and happy for you both.

Banjo Lee Jones

congratulations and best wishes to you both

Happy sounds like the entire time was so wonderful and magical!

Congratulations to you both. I wish you all the best.

grandfatherknits's picture

50 is the new 30.


JDM511's picture

Congratulations!!! A birthday and a Wedding all in one weekend. How are you going to follow this up next weekend? Hope you have a very happy marriage.

steve kadel's picture

since the surprise bday was over a month early, i consider it a mere warmup for the really really big surprise...but i could be getting my hopes up :)

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justONEmoreROW's picture

Hey congratulations!! Must feel like being on top of the world. Alas, I've never experienced having a BF, but someday a nice guy will come along(I hope). I'm excited for yah, anyway...must be great! "Celebrate, Celebrate-Dance To The Music"~~Three Dog Night.

mountainrunner's picture

Congratulations! It sounds like it was wonderful celebration. We're now very fortunate in Canada that same sex marriage is legal across the country - there are several other countries in which it is legal as well.

scenter's picture

Congratulations! I think marriage definitely trumps a WIP. Enjoy!

dandelion's picture

Yay! Congratulations and best wishes! What a wonderful weekend!

Pinecone's picture

Welcome to the 50's and congratulations on your wedding! What a thrill!!! Your announcement may be "off topic" but I was grinning from ear to ear as I read it. My partner and I just celebrated 28 years together and had a wonderful committment ceremony more than 16 years ago, and although New York State has not yet progressed to the point of recognizing same sex unions I think it is only a matter of time before that happens. Here's wishing you and your spouse every happiness in your life together. Thanks for sharing this with us!

steve kadel's picture

thank all of you for you kindness and well wishes and congratulations. this has been a year where history is being made on many fronts. i never had to decide in a presidential primary before between and woman and an african american as viable candidates. now gays can marry. what will be next? peace? one can only keep the ball moving forward

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