Sexism on Display

Wondering how many have seen this particular video? I don't get offended easily but I really don't like what's going on here. What's even more disappointing about it is that they have a knitting blog: http://fordcitystitchnbitch.blogspot.com.

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michaelpthompson's picture

I can see where you're coming from Mike. Personally, I don't think sexism or "homophobia" are really about sexuality at all. Don't we keep saying, "What I do in the privacy of my own bedroom is none of your business at all?" So yeah, it's about perceptions and social roles. These women thought the men they were furtively filming were "weird" somehow because they were interested in knitting, traditionally a feminine activity. But if we equate that with homosexuality, aren't we doing pretty much the same thing? They didn't mention anything about thinking the men were gay or anything, the viewers made that leap. Which to me says we're equating feminine gender roles with perceived homosexuality. Doesn't that somehow just play into their hands?

I haven't had the experience of being singled out or ridiculed for my perceived gender role, so maybe that's why I have trouble making the connection between their ridicule of a man doing "feminine" activities and being gay. But it seems to me we don't need to feed that same monster ourselves.

I do respect and appreciate the frank discussion though. Thanks.

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"All knitting is just one stitch at a time."
Tallguy

akkamaddi's picture

I think that homophobia, towards men, is the perception of men doing things that are effeminate, but also emasculating and dis-empowering. I guess the issue is that in my perception (and I know opinions will vary), homophobia is sexism towards one's own gender for taking on dis-empowering behavior. The sexual aspects are secondary.

Peace

bobinthebul's picture

I agree, but to take that a step further, I think it's chiefly about misogyny in a society that holds masculinity as more valuable than femininity. Think about it - if a girl does "boy things," her dad might very well be proud of her, but if a boy does "girl things," then he gets teased. The way that homophobia is applied to men and women is also different - with men it's definitely focused on the femininity and the acts, while when lesbians get bashed, what sort of comments do you hear? "You just need a good man" etc. The subtext is "how dare you see me (and my masculinity) as useless! I'll show you!" One seeks to prove one's masculinity over another's perceived lack thereof, while the other is a reaction to a perceived attack on, or belittling of, his masculinity.

scottly's picture

The phrase "closet knitters" was a pretty obvious reference.

michaelpthompson's picture

You could be right Scottly, Let's come out of the closet!

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"All knitting is just one stitch at a time."
Tallguy

sonics's picture

Well said my friend!

sonics's picture

I've never had anyone question my knitting or make a negative comment about it. I mean, I've gone fishing with the guys and got bored of fishing and whipped out my sweater I'm working on and sat by the fire just happy to be outdoors. Do I need to say I am not a gay man? Should it matter really? This is sad really. I guess others may have have problems with other people explaining their knitting. I have never really thought about it. Men who knit is such a harmless thing.

I am surprised those women find it so strange. but I can't imagine why anyone would care enough to make a vid of it.

Makes you wonder.